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Love Avoidance — What is It? Do I have it? What can I do about it?
It has been some time since I gave an update on my friend, Bob. My apologies to all those who have been waiting with bated breath to learn that Bob has found a way to make character and values more important to him than the mere act of getting off — it will never happen overnight. In time, with positive influences in his life — possibly.
I also haven’t updated you much on my progress of dating as an older adult on the lifestyle, likely, because there hasn’t been any progress. I think this is what I’d love to discuss with you. The lack of progress — is it intentional? A friend told me that he believes I avoid being in a relationship. So, since Bob thinks he knows “all” about women, I asked him — “Hey, do you think I’m purposely avoiding a relationship?” He felt so, too. So, let’s address this.
What is Love Avoidance?
According to Psychology Today, love avoidance is an inability or refusal to allow yourself to experience an intimate, loving relationship. The idea is that those with love avoidance problems have problems trusting other people. They also tend to distance themselves from relationships that feel “too close for comfort.” Psychologists blame terrible experiences or possible trauma in early childhood. In layman’s view of the term — it can be seen as being emotionally…
