Expectations

Something happens when someone expects their relationship will progress to something more committed, but ends up disappointed when they find out their partner doesn’t want the same thing. Most people know exactly what they want in a relationship, but rather than “rock the boat” by having a conversation, they decide to wait it out and hope that their partner will come around and everything will work out. Sometimes, in an effort to hold on to hopes of a better relationship, when they get the sense their partner doesn’t share the same ideas for their future, they pretend to be cool with it even though it isn’t making them happy.

When expectations are not met, or they conclude their partners on a different path, most people start feeling unfulfilled or anxious. Often times, anger develops because they don’t get what they want and need from the relationship. Building up anxiety over the issue rather than talking about it leads to different emotional responses. One such response is dropping hints and conversations about their needs, and with the negative emotions attached the meaning behind the words becomes altered so their hints are often misunderstood or ignored. All this tension can build until one or both partners, in feeling frustration between themselves and their loved one can eventually become emotionally destructive and confrontational. When presented with all the negative emotions attached, it can end an otherwise potentially beautiful relationship, before it has time to be nourished and grow with a solid foundation.