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BDSM, Trust, and Colon Perforations
There are many reasons I chose to write on this subject; a decision made many years ago. One of those reasons was to protect others. For anyone who is involved in the BDSM lifestyle, it has its positives, but there is a very dark side to it. At times, that is the draw.
It can be a fine line between a D/s situation and one that can be abusive. It has always been my goal to empower the submissive. So many are confused and believe that because “you are submissive, I can do whatever I want to you.” The sad truth is many young women believe this.
Trust
The foundation of any BDSM relationship is trust. A submissive trusts the Dominant and expects that they will not be harmed. I’m aware there are many masochists in the mix, but even in sensation play — the point is not to cause real harm. But as you can see above, trust is only a 5-point word.
Since my dating life has been a bit dull, it might be OK to talk about my friend, “Bob.” In all honesty, Bob is a dear friend, but as his friend, I think it's alright to mention that I disagree often with his “tactics.” Bob is a Dom that enjoys teaching new submissives. If you read the ads and profiles of most Dominant-labeled individuals somewhere in the fine print, you always find those phrases…
